Where do you get your validation


Week 8 – A Beauty to Rescue

I’m blown away but not surprised… if that makes any sense.

The reality check that nearly every man gets his validation from his woman (or another man in the case of same-sex attraction) was not something I’ve ever really specifically drilled into in my own life.

Sure I’ve done co-dependency courses and been in recovery classes for over 6 years and I’m very aware how we give our power away to others but for some reason Session 8 resonated on a whole new level. Once I started to ask God how this might apply in my own life it became very obvious.

Concepts like :

  • Those whom we give the power to validate us also inherits the power to invalidate us
  • We don’t love our wives so they love us back, we love them because that is our God-given role in marriage. 
  • Even if you love your wife perfectly like Christ – she still may not respond.

And much more – this was some deep stuff brothers – if you missed this lesson make sure and create some space and check it out online by clicking the link above or visiting the WAH Page

Blessings in Christ,


p.s. Feel free to add your voice to this post – what stirred in your heart after watching the video?


Life is hard, and change is inevitable. Sometimes it is welcomed, and other times it is overwhelming. As a child abuse survivor who has struggled with mental illness such as anxiety, PTSD, ADD, OCD, addictions and mountains of self-worth issues, I now find myself resilient, empowered and filled with gratitude most days. But that doesn't come easy or natural. It takes intentionality. It takes faith. It takes patient endurance. It takes incredible amounts of self-awareness, honesty, humility, and courage to make choices that are the polar opposite of how you feel. It takes vision and determination, hope and healing. I'm glad you stopped by my blog, I hope you found something of use as I transparently share my journey with others, the highs and the lows, the wisdom and the blunders, in the hopes that my mess becomes a message of hope, encouragement, and strength for even one person. .
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2 Responses to Where do you get your validation

  1. Roland says:

    Thanks so much this site is awesome


  2. Thanks Roland! It is something I truly enjoy spending time with, glad you find it useful!!


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